Few words left as deep an impression on readers as the verb to tame, in The Little Prince (in the Brazilian translation, the verb is cativar). It is no coincidence: it holds the ethical heart of the work. When the fox asks the boy to "tame me," he's not asking for affection, he's proposing an entire philosophy about what it means to bond with someone.
To tame is to establish ties
"To tame... means to establish ties," explains the fox. Before being tamed, he is a fox like a hundred thousand others, and the Little Prince, a boy like a hundred thousand others. After the tie, each one becomes unique in the world for the other. The bond does not change the appearance of things, it changes their value: it is what transforms the ordinary into irreplaceable.
Here resonates the philosopher Martin Buber, who in I and Thou states that being is only fully realized in the encounter, not with things, but with people. The I-Thou relationship is the most authentic form of existence, and that is exactly what the fox offers the prince: the experience of reciprocity, of mutual care, of committed presence.
The loving weight of responsibility
From the tie comes a duty. "You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed." It is the most powerful ethical statement in the book, and also the most demanding. Friendship and love are not just lightness: they are loving weight, a decision to remain even when you don't understand everything. A bond that time does not dissolve, because it is inscribed deep in the soul.
Not surprisingly, this same phrase reappears in the book linked to the rose that the prince left. Taming and being responsible are the opposite and the right of the same gesture: whoever establishes a tie assumes the care of whoever was on the other side of it.
Against the rush of the adult world
The fox also teaches that taming requires time and ritual: getting a little closer each day, at the same time, with patience. It is a lesson against the adult logic of haste and utility, that of the planets that the prince had already visited. He is not tamed by convenience or consumption; he is tamed by slowness and attention.
That's why the verb is so revolutionary: in a world that exchanges bonds like exchanging objects, the Little Prince reminds us that love is wasting time with others and accepting to be touched forever. To hear the full analysis of the encounter with the fox, watch the class.
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What does it mean to tame in The Little Prince?
To tame means to establish ties, as the fox teaches. It is the process of making someone unique to us through time, care and presence, transforming one among many into irreplaceable.
Who teaches the Little Prince to tame?
The fox, in the meeting that he himself asks for. He explains that, when he is tamed, he stops being a fox like a hundred thousand others and becomes unique in the world, and the same goes for the boy.
What does "you become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed" mean?
That establishing a tie generates a commitment. Loving and having friends is not just lightness, it is assuming the responsibility to remain, to care for others even when you don't understand everything.
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Source class (YouTube): O Pequeno Príncipe, de Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (NousCast)